As I review my life and my accomplishments along the way I immediately must give deference to my mother. I never thought much about all the lessons she bestowed upon me nor the power that a mother has until I recently became a mom. Along my journey as a mother I am creating my own messages and lessons to pass along to my child. I started a notebook containing nuggets of wisdom she can refer to as she grows. In creating this book, of course I had to stop to review what leadership tips my own mother gave. Hence, I’ve created the 10 secrets to growing up happy, healthy and destined for success.
Tip #1 Be who you are. Be you, do you!
I grew up with a mother who wore socks, high-heeled shoes and leg warmers as a regular part of her wardrobe. She not only has her own unique style, but she embodies individuality overall. If the crowd were going left, she’d go right. She is not afraid to go against the grain and be herself, living comfortably in her own skin. Thankfully I also can proudly stand up and be me. I’m not afraid nor do I feel the need to apologize for taking control of my life and living it my way. Sometimes my happiness may conflict with others, but hey at the end of the day, I must be me, and do me!
Tip #2 Pay yourself first. Save, it’s not what you make, it’s what you keep.
She always drilled in me the importance of saving and having a budget. I began working and saving at least 10% of my income at 12 years old and I still follow that rule today. Having the discipline to save, budget and invest are the cornerstones to creating wealth and avoiding the stress that’s associated with living paycheck to paycheck and being overextended financially.
Tip #3 Have a plan. Set goals
Having a written plan and a vision for your life sets the pace and tone for all that you are. This is your roadmap to success. Goals help to keep us motivated and accountable to our desires.
Tip #4 The choices you make today can have a significant impact on your life tomorrow.
Being strategic and deliberate about our actions is important. We can look back on our lives today and see how the seeds we planted some time ago have bloomed, good, bad or otherwise. The people we chose to associate ourselves with, how we spend our money, how we treat our bodies etc, etc, has a lot to do with our future. As a child my mother demanded that I review my actions and the possible rewards and/or consequences behind them. I consistently thought ahead. I’ve been playing this game called life as the chess game that it truly is. It’s all about strategy and being very cognoscente of the moves we make.
Tip #5 You are responsible for yourself.
Along the same lines of being aware of my choices, I was also taught the responsibility of dealing with the choices and decisions I selected. Though we have family and friends for support at the end of the day, we truly have ourselves to count on. We cannot look toward anyone or anything outside of ourselves for our joy and fulfillment. We are responsible for the quality of our own lives. As adults we must stand up and take control. No one is to blame for our successes or learning experiences along the way.
Tip #6 Lead by example
My mother has given me examples of many things, but one of the most important lessons was of her leading by example when it comes to life’s design. She embodies happiness, freedom and peace of mind. As her daughter, I just knew I had to follow her lead. She’s such a happy-go-lucky person. She’s not the type of mom that says “do as I say, but not as I do.” She is a very creative thinker that does not allow the limitations and expectations of others to get in the way of her joy. She has shown me the pathway toward joy, by being joy. She’s shown me the road toward entrepreneurship by being an entrepreneur. She’s shown me the power of self-respect and self awareness, by being in touch with herself.
Tip #7 Education is critical. Read, read and read some more!
Education is critical, in whatever form it finds you. She didn’t necessarily say college, she said education. She started reading to me as a baby and from that point I developed the love for books and seeking knowledge. We are a sum total of the people we hang around and the books we read.
Tip #8 Know the power of entrepreneurship
Not everyone aspires to be an entrepreneur and there’s nothing wrong with that whatsoever, but for those who do, go for it! The rewards and satisfaction that accompany creating your own money and pathway is exhilarating. Traveling down the road to entrepreneur really does help you discover who you really are and how much discipline and motivation you really have inside of you. Sometimes we have to be willing to branch out in order to seize our dreams, if working for someone else is just not doing it. Don’t get me wrong entrepreneurship most certainly has its challenges; sometimes it really is feast and then famine. Only the strong, with a solid plan, and a boat load of persistence will survive.
Tip #9 Don’t worry be happy!
Everything will be alright in the end; if it’s not alright it’s not the end. The universe is always conspiring in our favor and things will always work out just as they should. Things are how they are, and will be as they will be. We may as well just focus on the positive and be happy! No need to wait or postpone happiness for certain events or occurrences. The time is now.
Tip #10 All the way to the top!
Go all the way, put your best foot forward and do it! Whatever “it” is, do it, be it, live it. Go all the way to the top!
Robin Allen is an expert in the fields of personal and professional development. She is a keynote speaker, workshop presenter and trainer that conduct programs and speeches on topics such as life balance, self-esteem, weight loss, management/leadership and sales. Robin, runs De-Ivy Management and can be reached at http://www.robinallendirect.com